As I write the title for this, John Mayer’s song “Say what you need to say” comes to my mind. This is the message that I want to write about today. Speaking out, feeling your power, standing up and speaking forth your view point no matter what some may say.
This subject is a personal favorite for me as this has come up for me many times in my life and continues to give me opportunities to practice it. You might say it is the gift that keeps on giving! Many clients lately have been talking about setting boundaries and how they feel they need to create better, stronger more defined boundaries for themselves. I am listening and responding to the call to speak about this.
The word boundaries can be daunting. Don’t let it be. Look at them as an opportunity. A chance to know better what it is you want going into a situation. People do not know what you like, what you don’t like, what pleases you and what displeases you. Anytime you feel you have been walked on, your space invaded or you feel that little feeling inside saying “you need to set better boundaries for yourself,” embrace it! See that as an opportunity to figure out what is acceptable or not to you. Once you have, set that boundary. Draw that imaginary line in the sand (for some this may be an actual line in the sand) and stand behind your certainty.
Speak your truth in as many situations as possible. When you do this, you become aligned with your true self and your mask fades away in a world sometimes filled with masked characters. What is there to hide? If there is something you feel you are hiding, love that thing. Do whatever it is you have to do to accept it and embrace it for once you love it, others follow. Love your imperfections and accept them. Then if the mask comes off, you have nothing to hide. There is nothing to feel embarrassed about. Your dark moments can become your light.
I guess you can say this is a call to action. I feel exceptionally motivated to gently challenge everyone who reads this to stand up for yourself today as we all have at one time or another in the past. Let today be the day that you love your self, take off the mask at the ball and watch how life becomes a ball as you start to play with it.
Speak your truth…
Don’t hide anymore…
Come out and play…
Be you.
5 Comments
Wow, Randy. I feel like the universe is aligning tonight. Your words are so relevant to me at this moment. I have struggled with this concept for most of my life and have really reached a point where I am ready to be the full me. You spoke exactly the things I needed to hear at exactly the right moment. You have an uncanny ability to put things into perspective and you speak in a tone and manner that is very easy to relate to. I think we would get along marvelously in the real world:) Thank you for your words of inspiration. I will keep you posted on my progress.
Wow, Randy. I feel like the universe is aligning tonight. Your words are so relevant to me at this moment. I have struggled with this concept for most of my life and have really reached a point where I am ready to be the full me. You spoke exactly the things I needed to hear at exactly the right moment. You have an uncanny ability to put things into perspective and you speak in a tone and manner that is very easy to relate to. I think we would get along marvelously in the real world:) Thank you for your words of inspiration. I will keep you posted on my progress.
April
Incredible! You have the greatest ability to write to the general masses, and yet allow individuals to feel you are speaking directly to them. This blog, like most or all of your writing, speaks directly to my heart and soul, and especially my will and courage, or lack thereof. I used your advice today and I will try to incorporate it every day from this day forward. And so far, it’s worked!
Thank you for your gentle encouragement and for sharing what I feel is your brilliance with others, so that they can benefit and grow as well!
Thank you Randy. I appreciate what you are saying. I am much too critical of myself and I do need to learn to love or at least accept the parts of myself I do not like. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and insights, Maria
This is beautifully written….and true! Yes, setting boundaries gives us an opportunity to be happier and more productive human beings. Boundaries enable us to move forward to create the life that we desire.