I am choosing to write about this subject today for I found that in my life, this has been a challenge for me. I have gotten so much better at asking for what I need from others but it’s still a work in progress.
Asking for what it is that you need probably sounds simple to some, more difficult for others.
Have you ever been in a situation where you have felt frustrated with someone or in communication with someone and thought, “this is not what I want. I wish they would do or say something different?”
If so, here is your opportunity to let them know what you need from them in that moment. Being upset and knowing you want something different still keeps you in the same place. Understanding what it is they can do to make you feel different is understanding your own needs.
It is easy to walk around not even realizing our own needs most of the time, especially in situations with people who are close to us.
If you ask for what you need, you have a better chance of getting it. You are showing up for yourself and loving yourself by asking for what you need. This is taking care of yourself.
If you do not ask for what you need from others, chances are people will disappoint you. Even though we may think others should know the right way to handle situations or how to handle us, chances are, they do not.
This is where you come into play. You are your own best advocate. Only you know what is going on within you. Only you know what you may need most in that moment. If someone is not giving you what you need and you do not speak up, this will lead to resentment, pent up feelings and ultimately drain your energy.
This does not always mean that others will come through in the exact way you want even by telling them what you need from them. It can however, lead to two very important things.
1) If you are asking for what you need, this means that you have brought your awareness to what you want. When you bring your awareness to something, it will shift in some way.
2) Asking for what you need means you are listening to yourself. You are acknowledging that your feelings matter and by asking, you are stepping up to the plate for you.